If your husband gets angry when you try to express your concerns, perhaps its time to do that in a place where it can be mediated, like therapy. Why Masonry is a counterfeit religion. Before I get the talk to him, express your feelings and fears talk, been there done that. My boyfriend is part of the mason. If you are more introverted (like myself), Masonic functions can serve as a test ground for the “real world”. Great! other. First deny that Masonry is a religion and then proceed to prove that it is. This is the question we try to answer with today's article. Well long story short he became a Mason against my wishes (my opinion is that he didn’t want to seem like he couldn’t afford it and being the boss he wasn’t going to have that). Masons worship a god which they call the Great Architect of the Universe. If you and your Mason plan on being fairly active socially, I would recommend investing in some nice dress clothes. 6:16; Eph. I also highly recommend, yet again, that you seek marriage counseling for you and your husband. I know we ladies do not get off that easily; but, if you enjoy shopping, think of it as a bonus. Glad to hear you enjoy it! annul his duty to remain chaste and pure. The mutual duty Unfortunately, neither of these websites are affiliated with regular masculine Masonry, and so everything on them must be taken with a grain of salt. Good luck on your journey! Many of the questions couples have about the topic are scattered across the internet, I would like to bring them all together. One question that many Masons ask is if there is such thing as a Masonic wedding ring. "[8] What religion? it will doom Christian marriage and the Christian family. If anything, Masonry has made him a better husband and father and given him an added sense of purpose. Right, so you don’t have any idea what goes on at a meeting, and don’t have any evidence to back yourself up other than that you don’t like that they keep secrets. has made with the Lodge and how it may effect her marriage. To go up through the organization the men become knights, that is not a cult. 4. The very essence of Christian by: WM Steve Grudzinski. That can have it’s downsides. Most often, when folks search out information about this topic, they come across one of two websites; the Phoenix Masonry Masonic ritual, and the ever popular “Masonry- A Marriage Wrecking Ball” website. However, you do lose your eligibility to join a new organization unless you have a different Masonic tie (father, uncle, etc). Although the world has changed since then, Masonry has not always changed with it. As long as the Mason himself keeps his promise, then so be it, his honour as a Mason and a man stays in tact. 1. if you choose to support your Mason by being active in Lodge activities, you will never find a lack of something to do. This is all based in fantasy of course, and have no relation to actual Freemasonry. I often just open the ritual from online on my phone when we require a reference. But anyways, if he wants me to be his Mason wife, would I be making a wouderful choice by marrying him. I am sorry, but there is clearly something wrong at home, and the other brethren know this too. One of the things that the sensationalists want you to believe is that Masonry will ruin your marriage and steal your man. For instance, unless you are legally married, a woman who has no other Masonic relationships cannot join the Order of the Eastern Star. But wives knowing what it is all about, is in fact quite common practice. There are no death threats and the only thing that is secret is the handshake. As young brethren, most is worried about breaking their promise to keep these small things secret. The book that I always recommend is FreeMasonry for Dummies. My husband got involved with this behind my back without even talking tonme about it. 19:5,6; Mark 10:8; 1 Cor. If you have questions, watch what kind of sources you are using, just like any other legitimate scholarly research. If it is secret it is not positive, I believe. Good morning Mason’s Lady. The shooter, a 76-year-old Mason, Albert Eid, was carrying two guns, a .22-caliber handgun with blanks in his left pocket, and a .32-caliber gun with live rounds in his right pocket. In my case, the issue is really just about quality time and how he chooses where to spend it—with his wife or the fraternity. Some say that Freemasonry is opposed to orthodox Christianity because it promotes a form of syncretism or otherwise conflicts with Christian beliefs and obligations. So the secrecy is a non-issue. I am glad you did join in… The “refuge” comment hit the nail on the head of many of the above comments…. These rights must be jealously guarded by both parties. Being married to a Mason does not obligate her to anything, Lodge dinners, appendant bodies, in fact, she may not even like the fact that he is a Mason (more on that later). Freemasonry has always been religious in character, though it subscribes to no particular orthodoxy. Lol. As the wife of a 32 degree Mason, I will say my opinion of the Masons has changed through experience with my husband and the small amount of exposure to the actual Masons philosophy. If you really want to know what goes on, i’d say the best place to start is asking your husband! Often, the biggest fear is the fear of the unknown, if you get involved with Masonry, you may find that it squelches that fear. subordinate everything, even his family, to his Masonic belief. My husband had become a Master Mason in October. What do you mean, can I be with my husband all the time? In the United States, each state has its own Grand Lodge. This I must, however, respectfully disagree that just because something is secretive, that it cannot be positive. How is it different from a Mason’s Lady? It sounds like your husband may need to re-evaluate his priorities. The Grand Master advises that it is his policy and that of the Board of General Purposes that no Wedding should be held in a Lodge Room, the main objection being that it could indicate support for the erroneous criticism of Freemasonry by certain elements in the community that Freemasonry is a "pseudo religion" and, therefore, incompatible with Christianity or other recognized religion. Lots seperated couples or wives running after hubby’s to connect and communicate. To become a Freemason, the applicant has to be an adult male and must believe in the existence of a supreme being and in the immortality of the soul. I am intrigued by some of the stories I hear. You seem to have been misinformed. There are a lot of websites and information out there. It is very refreshing to read this and have a positive perception of Masonry. The wife in a Christian marriage covenant has the inalienable right to know Change ), You are commenting using your Facebook account. I truly believe in being yourself at all times, so that’s why I read this. The Albert Pike books and the Masonic bible are interesting reads. It has honestly change his life for the better.. I would recommend contacting your local Grand Lodge, which you can find here: http://www.masonicinfo.com/grandlodges.htm. Change ), You are commenting using your Google account. Although i don’t know you personally i believe you could answer this for me. Because, I used my grandfather as a recommendation, would the rule change? From information i have found on my own, its a bad place and i don’t want him involved with it. Especially if they are curious! The practice of freemasonry includes temples, altars, a moral code, worship services, vestments, feast days, a hierarchy of leadership, initiation and burial rites, and promises of eternal reward and punishment. My fiancé is a Mason and I was always supportive of his involvement and included during his journey as well. Thank you, ma’am, for the breath of fresh air. Especially if they are curious! The rest can, and I would advocate, be shared with our spouses. Is there a way we can communicate through email?? Solomon’s Temple is a substantial part of the rituals and symbolism found within Freemasonry. I would suggest working on communication, and considering couples therapy. We are each others first og everything if you know what I mean. Everything you have wrote captures me because he is so strong about his place as a Master Mason. Mason’s View: All members must believe in a deity. In the Masonic contract, the wife is not consulted on the matter of the Unfortunately, she did not choose to do any research regarding what Masonry is really about, and to my knowledge, still holds this stance. Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. If either of these covenants are accepted in lieu of Christianity, Sadly, those words are not supported by his actions. As always it is a great pleasure to hear how it is always someone else at fault. From the 1800s into the early 1900s, there was the Masonic tradition of founding orphanages, homes for widows, and homes for the aged provided the only security many people knew. The best advice I can give to people in this situation is communicate with your partner, and get involved. As a Mason, I have no reason to jump in here. The husband is bound to respect the law of God and follow it, just as he they do not give up their money, nor anything else but a litttle time. Thanks, Please, is Freemasonry bad? Because my late husband was not in good standing with the Masons, I could not use him as a reference. The Fatherhood of God 100 8. Here is the question. Is there room for homosexuality in Freemasonry? Usually this is the only requirement for the groups that allow women. I hope that you can get this all sorted out, and that you have a good day. 31, 39, 42 Acts of Synod 1947, pp. However, we do have some brethren who find refuge at Lodge. Deborah- Jesus Christ 126 11. (a few countries allow or encourage women members). He never asks if I mind if he goes out to a meeting, often I don’t even know he’s going. As for my children keeping secrets, I will be honored if my children choose to join a Masonic youth organization. No, that is not correct. Same applies here. other regular Masonic body other than those stated. I often just open the ritual from online, directly on my phone when we require a reference. This ritual is only sanctioned by the Grand Lodge of Turkey, so unless you have a Turkish Lodge in your area, you are probably out of luck if  you wanted to use this ritual for your wedding. This covenant between man and As the Freemasonry of the Premier Grand Lodge of England spread in France, the French fraternity stayed within the letter of Anderson's proscription of women, but saw no reason to ban them from their banquets or their religious services. Freemasonry invites people of all faiths, even if they use different names for the ‘Nameless One of a hundred names,’ they are yet praying to the one God and Father of all. It has local organizations, known as lodges. Thus I agree fully with the sentiment that some couples would be unhappy, with Freemasonry in the mix or not. Nikki, if you need someone to talk to and vent without all this judgment by the biased group, you’re welcome to email me. All lodges follow the same principles, but their activities can be different. One of the primary purposes of Freemasonry is worship. That’s what they want the public to believe. There is nothing good about it and any group that must keep ‘secrets’ and meet in ‘secret’ needs to be abolished. You may have seen pictures of a Masonic wedding floating around on the internet. By becoming "one This nationwide declaration of equality and the changing societal norms it represents necessitates taking a hard look at Freemasonry--long having been recognized as an organization that celebrates all men as equals--and its attitude toward homosexuality in order to ask the question: “If all men are equal, and now have equal rights to marriage across the United States, is the practice of homosexuality in and of … This can be his wife, his girlfriend, his mom, grandmother, neighbor, etc. I am also sorry for the men whose wives/ladies do not support their decision to go through a journey that can only make a good man better. If you would like to discuss this further, please email me at themasonslady@gmail.com. It is bad when a man would rather be anywhere else, than at home. I really am sorry for all of those who seem so abominably misinformed about the doings and intentions of the Fraternity. It might be worth it to also contact your local Grand Chapter, which you can find here: http://www.easternstar.org/general-grand-chapter-office/. Many of the ladies are friends unto themselves and make the time at the lodge a bit of an outing. Neither may lawfully (God's law) join in covenants with others, which We live in a moderately sized Midwestern city, and there is a Masonic function going on almost every night of the week. Like many other things on the internet, most of the stuff out there is false information by the paranoid or uninformed. I have been a member of Eastern Star since 1986 when my husband joined Masons. You can learn more about these organizations here. I recently discovered she was having an affair with a married GRandMaster in which his wife found out about 3 years ago (obviously I’m late). Hello my name is Keshia Thompson, and I’m interested in joining this awesome orginazation but I do have a couple of questions. Freemasonry does recognize the existence of a Supreme Being, and new members are required to swear that they hold such a belief. The first Masonic lodges began showing up in the colonies in the early 18th century, and swiftly gained power and influence. 17, 47, 65-69, 77-80, 238-45 Acts of Synod 1952, pp. We had a great marriage and were best friends. As I wrote, I met the love of my life and we are now engaged. The rest can, and I would advocate, be shared with our spouses. My husband is uber involved in all facets of it. Thank you for this. matter of written record and neither has the moral nor spiritual right to Actually, you can find the entire ritual here. Try contacting the Grand Secretary, which is usually the person the emails are directed to anyway. Although I find that response comical, I thank you again for your time. At the end of the day, it is just a ring. well now we are at getting phone calls during dinner every other night of the week reminding about the goings on at the lodge. I would suggest that the “Mason Lady ” read Morals and Dogma by Albert Pike ( 33rd degree freemason). However, I do not feel that this is truly the case. Again I say my husband does not need to be part of this vile and wicked group. The Nature of God 108 9 The Name of God 119 10. These lodges do not differ from other existing lodges in their beliefs… Well I thank you for your time. Jan What sets Masonic funerals apart are the rituals, the focus, and inclusion. will infringe on these conjugal rights. I also believe that cultures and organizations that encourage marital infidelity are dysfunctional. I hope am called anytime soon for the interview then after I get initiated…. I really appreciated this article as it seems there is a lot of negative backlash regarding Marriage in Freemasonry. Thank you. Sex and the secretive masons An Irishwoman was the first female to break the glass ceiling of the ultimate old boys’ club. Who is a Masonic wife? All the rituals are opened and freely available online. So basically if a mason has an ex-wife & children…..Then he gets involved w/an Eastern Star…..It is encouraged to that mason not to communicate or associate w/the ex????? The book Standard Freemasonry states that Presbyterians are bad material [for the lodge] until they go against their church.6 The Proceedings of the Grand Lodge of Oregon, 1870, p. 209 states that the world is a good place when the Presbyterian church … The Lodge is also a secret society. You may, however, use any Masonic ring that you hold the degree for as a wedding ring. My wife regularly helps me with rehearsal – so she knows more than pretty much all of the younger brethren. It sounds like there may be bigger issues at stake here. The symbol they have chosen to represent their god is the All Seeing Eye, which … I know he probably feels torn between home and the lodge; however it is also unfair for them not to take some responsibility for this as well. it is considered equal to the koran; religious texts from the Hindu, Buddhist religions (and others) can also be used. should expect his wife to do. This assumes that Freemasons regard the beliefs and teachings of the Craft as if they were religious teachings requiring personal subscription and substituting for those of the Church. My husband has just began his journey to become a Mason. As I have said on here before, their only secrets are handshakes and words of recognition. What organization would you like to join? I also have no intention of keeping any either. However, it sounds like you guys are having issues that go far beyond the boundaries of Freemasonry, and I urge you again to seek marital counseling. A Mason’s Lady, however, I feel is quite different. Yes, I understand fully that he has a choice in whether or not he attends whatever function at hand, but I also know that putting someone on the spot or expressing the need for him to be there is very unfair. Last year, I met a wonderful gentleman, and we are now engaged. For a concise history of these matters see the entry Marriage. Are there any ramifications for this kind of behavior. Since then she has changed quite a bit. There is no brainwashing. There is no international administrative or controlling authority over Freemasonry. I was actually the one that talked him into it, having had the good fortune of being an avid reader who came across some writings that were far from some of the ludicrous stuff the internet has had to offer over the past half hour. break this marriage bond; no judge, no preacher. As I have said before, Freemasonry was created officially in 1717, with the formation of UGLE. Ric joined Masons last November, is now not only a Master Mason, but a 32° Mason, a member of Scottish Rite, a Shriner (red Fez), member of Grotto (black Fez), a Hillbilly , and a newly initiated member of Eastern Star. For example, the New Catholic Encyclopedia states the opinion that "Freemasonry displays all the elements of religion, and as such it becomes a rival to the religion of the Gospel. To maintain its secrets, Masonry uses sym­bolism, secret oaths, and secret rituals to instruct new members, called “initiates.” Each new … You are correct there is definitely a bigger issue here; however I don’t think that people involved with this organization are willing to admit that the commitment they impose can cause issues. A Masonic funeral is a service provided to three levels of brotherhood in a Mason Lodge. I would strongly suggest that you attend meetings/get togethers if at all possible, so that you may be able to decide what the draw is. Blogs] [Links] Masonic World View 50 4. It can be hard to give up your SO for 2+ (at our house, more like 6 with bar time) hours to people you may not know on a weeknight.